Hi, you are just a human like me and we have many things in common, for example, none of us are perfect. We all dealing with regrets in life sooner or later. I have, and I bet you also have done things in life that you regret, right?
But, what I have come to notice is… It is NOT the things we do that we regret most, it´s the things we don´t do…
Dealing With Regrets In Life
Let me tell you a short example story.
I am working out regularly nowadays, It hasn´t always been like that. I have wasted A LOT of time doing stupid (YOLO) things in my younger years, you might recognize the feeling or experience, right?
However, many times when I am in the gym some of the “anabolic monster guys” looks at me admiring me doing dips for reps with more weight than they can do, and I am a small sized guy. I have also been able to score goals (with ease) in every sport I have ever tried.
It might be my own ego talking here of course but the fact is that I deep inside all my life have wanted to be a professional athlete.
If I only had the mindset that I have now when I was younger…
I Sold Myself Short – Please Don´t Do That To Yourself!
I am pretty sure that I would have made it if I would have truly applied myself in athletics when I was younger, maybe I could have been a pro.
But I never went all out…
The feeling is not a nice one, nowadays when I watch sports on tv (when I want to jump in and make that goal needed) I always have to sit and wonder… What could have been?
Please! Do A Promise To Yourself!
We cannot get second chances on these kind of things in life, we have to live with it forever… What we can do however is to learn from it and never make the same mistake again.
I have vowed to never sell myself short again. I never again want to feel the pain of what could have been.
My time has passed to become a professional athlete but I only told that story to make a point to you.
Are you selling yourself short? Can you honestly say that you are going all out to accomplish your goals? Or are you stupid (as I was) just going through life (like a drone) like I was when I was younger?
What´s holding you back? Is it fear? Is it doubt? Or maybe you are just lazy?
Whatever the answer might be in your case… I am pretty sure that the main root cause of your “drone acting” is that you´re trying to avoid PAIN.
- Maybe you try to avoid the pain of failure.
- Maybe you try to avoid the pain of embarrassment.
- Maybe you try to avoid the pain of putting in hard work.
- Maybe you are even afraid that you succeed, what if you do? Can you handle it?
Here is the thing…
If you trying to avoid that pain, that is only going to lead you to the worst pain of all… The pain of regret.
Those other pains go away, they only last for a short while… But regret lives inside of you forever.
Regret is eternal
So please, I beg you… Don´t waste time and don´t sell yourself short… and above all… don´t miss opportunities.
Great opportunities don´t come many times in life. When you see one you have to dive on it, with all that you´ve got.
Whatever in life you want, we all want different things.
This site is a lot about making money online but there is also room for advice on how to not waste time and how to create a better life in general, for example. But whatever you want in life or whatever opportunity it might be you need to go for it!
Or else you are up to the biggest pain in life, one that never leaves you…
I have an opportunity for you right now. I will give you an opportunity to work with whatever you want and become financially free.
It will take work and you will hit some obstacles on the road but I promise you that if you give it all you got and don´t give up you will reach financial freedom and you will succeed.
Or are you going to regret one year from now that you didn´t take the chance…thinking… Where would I be now if I did work on it the whole year?
Click here to see what I mean!
Matilda says
The best way to dealing with past mistakes and regrets is not to deal with it, which means not to think about it and not to worry about it.
What happened has already happened that you cannot change. What’s important is not to repeat the same mistake in future. But if we keep thinking the past regrettable behaviour, we are mentally reinforcing the behavioral pattern, to allow it get deep into our subconsciousness then we are bound to make the same mistake again.
Thanks for sharing your tips.
John says
Thank you Matilda! Great advice from you and very true!
/Best regards
Hilton says
Hey John:
Good post on the ubiquity of regret and missed opportunities, at least the opportunities we miss thanks to our own inaction or lack of direction. This is pretty universal among people.
What advice would you give to people who just can’t stop feeling guilty or regretting things? Your post focuses more on opportunities missed and regrets from that, but what about regrets from just plain doing crappy things? lol. Would the same strategies work?
John says
Well, some things we will probably regret all life, what might help though (what have helped me) is doing something all out, when you see results from that you will feel better about yourself and kind of “forgive yourself” from past missed opportunities.
Just like the good old saying: We should always look forward!